Loneliness is on the rise in our post-COVID world. Recent figures from a survey by the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy show that over 50% of responders report loneliness as having an impact on their mental health. While not explicitly a mental health problem, loneliness is certainly linked with low mood, self-perception and other concerns. As a growing issue, it’s highly important to be aware of the signs of loneliness, as well as methods to alleviate those distressing feelings.
 

Spotting the signs

There are several identifiers for spotting loneliness:

• Withdrawal from social interactions: A person experiencing loneliness might begin to distance themselves from friends, family, or social activities they once enjoyed. They may cancel plans frequently or avoid initiating contact altogether.
• Changes in mood or behaviour: Loneliness can manifest as increased irritability, sadness, or emotional numbness. Some people may appear more anxious or distracted than usual.
• Declining self-esteem: Feeling isolated can feed into negative self-perceptions. You might notice yourself or someone you know expressing feelings of worthlessness.
• Increased time spent online: While social media and technology can be a lifeline for connection, excessive online activity – particularly passive scrolling – can be both a symptom and a cause of loneliness.

Recognising these signs in ourselves or others is the first step towards making positive changes. Loneliness isn’t just about being physically alone; it’s about feeling disconnected or unseen, even in a crowded room.
 

Ways to combat loneliness

There’s “no one size fits all” solution for loneliness, but there are practical steps you can take to feel more connected and supported:

• Reach out and reconnect: Even a simple text or short conversation can begin to break the cycle of loneliness. If you’re feeling isolated, don’t wait for others to make the first move – taking initiative, even in small ways, can start to rebuild social bonds.
• Join a group or community: Whether it’s a local hobby group, volunteering, or an online community, being part of something bigger provides a sense of belonging and shared purpose.
• Limit passive screen time: Try to balance time online with real-life interactions, however small. Choose quality connections over quantity – a meaningful conversation has far more value than hours of scrolling.
• Practise self-compassion: Loneliness often comes with self-criticism. Try to treat yourself with the same kindness and patience you would offer a friend. Developing a healthy inner dialogue can ease feelings of isolation.
• Speak to a professional: If loneliness is having an effect on your mental health, speaking to a professional can provide insight and support. First Psychology Newcastle offers a confidential and comfortable space to work through the issues you may be struggling with.

We should aim to meet the recent rise in loneliness with an increase in awareness, as well as a reduction in stigma. It is perfectly normal to feel lonely from time to time, and by being proactive for ourselves and those around us we can build strong connections and prevent those feelings from growing into larger issues. A simple gesture really could make somebody’s day.